Take This Easy Life Coaching Skills Quiz

 What Does It Takes To Be A Professional Life Coach?

How Many Of These 12 Coaching Skills Do You Have?

You may already have all of these coaching skills or there may be some you need to commit to developing. These skills are what you need to be an authentic professional life coach. Also check out the lessons from other coaches at the end of this page.

1. Are you willing to get trained and qualified? Yes/No

You may think you already know what coaching is all about and how to do it. You may even already be qualified and practising as a psychologist, counsellor or mentor. 

But coaching is a different and specific skill-set. So until you have had some specific life coach training, preferably accredited by one of the independent coaching associations, you may not have a proper understanding of how coaching complements yet differs from other disciplines.  Here's a list of life coaching associations with links to check out. 

Learn what a life coach is and isn't and comparisons between life coaching and other healing professions. 

2. Can you keep a secret? Yes/No

The client must know that the coaching relationship and anything that comes up in the session is totally confidential, unless you get permission to share.

This is especially relevant if someone other than the client is paying for the coaching (such as in a corporate or family situation). In those cases, you must be very clear and firm in your initial agreements about the boundaries of what you can share about the client with the paying third party.

Bottom line? You must be able or learn to keep a secret and respect the clients need for confidentiality.

3.  Objectivity: Can you resist coaching from your own experiences? Yes/No

What you bring to coaching in the way of background or experiences may be useful in helping you choose a niche and have a better understanding of your clients needs.

However, you have to remember your client is not you and their solutions need to be arrived at through questions and coaching, not your experience.  This is especially true if you are coaching clients who may have had, or being having, similars experiences to you such a broken relationship a failed business, or a career setback . 

4.  Can you be supportive yet firm? Yes/No

Are you able and willing to learn to hold your client accountable for their actions in a way that is supportive to them through coaching them through their blocks, but doesn't stand for any nonsense? 

In the initial session with your client, let them know they are paying you to discover what could be the real issues, even if that truth is confronting for them. As one of my early coaches said to me "Wendy you are paying me to call you on your sh&#@ so you can move forward". But you don't have to put it as bluntly as that😊!

5.  Can You Easily Answer Questions About Life Coaching. Yes/No

You may be asked "so what's life coaching?" or, "what do you do?" at a party or networking event or anywhere when you strike up a conversation. Are you ready to answer it?

If you want to make the right impression you need to be able to answer easily and congruently - and for many new coaches that's not easy. 

You'll find lots of information to help you explain quickly and succinctly what you do as a life coach, and attract further interest, on this page about crafting an "elevator" speech. 

6.  Can you comply with the strong life coaching ethics? Yes/No

At the heart of good life coaching is authenticity and integrity. So you need to become familiar with and follow the ethical guidelines for life coaching such as those set out here by the International Coach Federation (ICF). The ICF, has become the gold standard for the coaching industry, also has a list of Core Coaching Competencies.

Different independent coaching associations may have similar guidelines to help aspiring coaches.

7.  Can you stand apart from judgment? Yes/No

If you aspire to be a life coach you must have a very strong natural acceptance and respect for other people, warts and all, and do your best not to let your biases or judgments show.

However, you may choose not to work with clients who reveal they have beliefs or behaviours that may be completely unacceptable to you, in conflict with your values or that you do not feel comfortable with.

A core coaching skill is to be involved enough to be empathic and enthusiastic. Yet to be truly objective you must stay emotionally detached from the issue at hand or the outcome. 

Of course you are going to have your own opinions and biases, (show me someone who hasn’t!). When you become a life coach you will have to learn to keep your own  judgments out of the coaching sessions, or at least own up to it before you share your perspective with your client.

8.  Are you a good listener - a vital coaching skill? Yes/No

One of the most important life coaching skills is to develop great observation and listening techniques. This involves hearing or observing what is often NOT being said and honing in on the real issues that the client has.

This is one of the core abilities of an empathetic and intuitive coach. If you don't believe you have it, the good news is that it can be developed. In my training with CoachU, this was the longest and one of the most important modules to learn and practice. 

9.  Are you willing to let the client make the decisions and do the work? Yes/No

Essentially, life coaching is client driven – they take the wheel, you question, encourage, guide, stretch and direct but never insist on them taking a certain path unless they are ready and “get” for themselves that is the way to go.

One of the most important life coaching skills is to be able to hold in check your natural desire to advise, control or manipulate your clients even when it is clear, from your perspective,  what needs to happen.

I believe you may make suggestions to get the client thinking but it should never be presented as advice rather as possible options for them to consider. 

10.  Can you let the client take the credit? 

Are you able to coach without needing acknowledgment? A good coach does not take credit for what their clients achieve - at least not to the client but you can give yourself a pat on the back😊

Instead, a truly great life coach will praise the client and let them take all the credit for all their successes.

However, this does not replace the value of their endorsement of your work. The place for them to really sing your praises in their testimonial.  Here's a process on how to get testimonials with ease, even if you hate asking. 

11. Are you willing to be flexible in how you coach and communicate? Yes/No

Each of us naturally has our preferred manner of coaching. Some prefer face to face and some prefer online or even phone coaching.  I believe that, these days, one of the key coaching skills needed is the willingness to be flexible with all approaches. 

Although online doesn’t come naturally to a lot of coaches and their clients, as the result of the needs of the CV19 pandemic, a huge proportion of coaching is now done via Zoom. 

12. Have you been coached yourself?

If after reading this checklist of coaching skills, you think you have or can develop what it takes and are getting excited about becoming a Life Coach, pause a moment and consider the following.

Have you been coached yourself?

If not I strongly recommend having a few coaching sessions yourself. Make sure the coach you choose has been trained by a reputable coaching school. Experiencing good coaching from a qualified coach will give you a good taste of what life coaching is really about. 

So how did you go? Life coaching is an exciting and rewarding career. Read more on how to get started on the journey to Becoming a Life Coach. 

Here are some useful resources to help your coaching journey.